We all have heard of countless blogs telling us how great it is to use positive affirmations for confidence.
You’ll be able to accomplish this, that, manifest, reduce stress and worries. But is this really true? I am here to tell you that you might want to reconsider it.
Here are three things that they NEVER tell you about those supposedly positive affirmations.
1. Positive Affirmations do not work for everyone
Countless studies have shown that affirmations are not what these bloggers claim them to be.
Wood, Perunovic, and Lee (2009) found that positive self-statements are more likely to be effective for people with high self-esteem than people with low self-esteem.
This is believed to happen because affirmations are used to alter your conscious mind.
It does not target your subconscious mind which is where the deep limiting beliefs are rested.
When this happens, your conscious mind and your subconscious mind end up on a battlefield because they are both contradicting each other.
These conflict of feelings, leads to feeling even worse.
So if you already have good self-esteem, power to you. Use affirmations.
But if not, you may need to do more to get to where you want your mind to be.
In all honesty, if you struggle with low self-esteem, you may be better off trying subliminals.
2. Positive affirmations need to be very very specific to work
Instead of saying, “I love all of myself”, your affirmations need to be more specific like “I love my hair!” or “I love my personality!”.
If not, the affirmations will feel incredibly unrealistic, silly, and unreasonable.
Because when you are saying I love all myself or I accept all of myself, your subconscious will take over.
Your subconscious will do everything in its power to try and find examples that contradict that statement when you are going about your day.
If you do use positive affirmations for confidence, then use specific examples that are consistent with what you truly believe in.
Basically, what you see the most often.
Instead of saying “I love all of myself”, you can say “I am learning to love all of myself”., because that is what you are specifically working on.
3. Affirmations do not solve all confidence/motivation/manifestation/happiness issues
It’s good to think of affirmations as a step to getting where you want to be with your mind.
If you are on the journey of a calm, clear, and confident mind, there are going to be multiple key steps that you are going to have to take.
Whether it’s hiring a coach or simply acting positively in small ways within your everyday life, it can all build up to a change in your mindset.
Changing your mind is not something that can happen overnight with a few positive statements.
Just remember, that most great things do not come easily.
So what can you use if not affirmations?
From what I have learned, it is better to clean out the negative thoughts instead of putting positive statements on top of negative thinking.
My coaching services are a great way to get past the negative thinking blocks that get in the way of relationships, friendships, and business opportunities.
You can also start out with neutral statements.
Statements such as “Tomorrow is another day.” or “I am not feeling confident, but I will do my best to try” are all great ways to correct negative self-talk.
Have you had any luck with affirmations? Do you think they work? Comment your thoughts below.
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