If you took your weaknesses and analyzed them against other people’s strengths, do you think that you would be able to get an accurate representation of yourself?
Would you be able to fully see the true person that you are? Do you think this would make you feel great?
Stop comparing yourself to others, girl. It’s just a recipe for disaster.
It robs us of our happiness and in the end we just get a drop in self-confidence and an uncertainty about our own life’s purpose.
But, it is easier said then done. We all compare ourselves to other people. But the overall main focus should be how you handle that comparison, how you let it affect you, and how to minimize it’s negative effects.
1. Cut down time on social media
We all know how social media can be toxic.
We are all too familiar with the scenario of our facebook friend bragging about their wonderful vacation in at a nice 5 star hotel with their boyfriend and a big ole smile on their face.
And then we think, “why not me?”. “Why am I not doing things like that?”.
Every now and then, I go on a social media cleanse in which I take a break from all social media networks.
After my cleanse, I find that I feel more relaxed, selfless, and unbothered.
I also tend to feel more generous in that I am more able to feel happy for other people’s accomplishments and that I am happy to give more kindness to others. I find that I stop comparing myself to others because I am not hyperfocused by so much information from other people’s lives.
Take a break for as long as you need to. It helps you to unwind and recognize your own surroundings as wonderful.
2. Show gratitude to stop comparing yourself
And I am 100% sure that we all have something to be grateful about. Girl! We are living! We are breathing! We are all blessed in one way or another.
There is so much good in our lives that goes unappreciated and there is nothing that is too small to be grateful for.
Showing gratitude will also help us celebrate our strengths. Why we are who we are and what makes us proud to be ourselves.
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When we have gratitude, we stop comparing ourselves to others because we pay more attention to the greatness in our own lives.
3. Make Mindfulness a thing
During a moment that you notice that you are comparing yourself to someone else, just stop and pause your mind.
Recognize what you are doing and rearrange your thoughts to focus on something else
Eventually, making this mindfulness a habit will help you stop comparing yourself as much.
You can also help ingrain this habit by setting a time every day to focus on the present moment without judgement.
This process becomes even more simple when you incorporate it into a meditation technique.
After time, it will become clockwork and you dont have to put in a hard conscious effort.
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In my coaching sessions, one of the things we work on is kickstarting your mindfulness habits by fostering accountability.
Overall, mindfulness not only helps you stop comparing yourself, but research also shows that practicing mindfulness leads to improved focus, increased happiness, decreased stress and anxiety
This helps you stay on track, helps you stay motivated and as a result you will stop comparing yourself to others.
4. Recognize the imperfections of others in a respectable way
This also ties into the idea of when you use social media.
In the social media world and sometimes in real life too, people love to brag.
People love to show how great and good their lives are but there is no way in hay that any one person’s life could be perfect.
When you are comparing yourself to others, you are most likely comparing yourself to the things that are perceived as going good in someone’s life.
But we are all flawed in some way or there is always something that comes up that puts our life into chaos.
That pretty girl on instagram with 500k followers probably has trouble in her romantic life.
The women with thousands of customers for her new business probably has issues with her debt.
It is unfortunate that we have to look at the bad in people’s lives in order for us to not compare ourselves but times have changed and back then we did not have social media that made us feel belittled.
Recognizing imperfections is ultimately a good thing as long as you keep it respectable.
Don’t go pointing out their flaws but just recognize and be mindful that they do have them.
5. Stay focused on your own journey
We are all unique in that we all have our own life journeys. We are all headed toward a certain life path that is different from the next person.
We all have our own unique experiences and your experiences help make up what you will become and what you want to do.
So with that being said, we shouldn’t look at our lives as a competition but as an opportunity for us to continually grow and become better according to our own standards.
Track your meaningful goals and track your progress to see how far you made it to reach those goals and how far you still need to go to get to where you want to be.
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